An open letter to men who yell things at women on the street
Dear men who yell things at women on the street,
Obviously, it is not okay to say "Nice tits!" or "Nice ass!" or "Come over here and get raped now!" Sometimes you say those things anyway, but you and I both know they are wrong.-Jen
However, I would like to discuss some of your comments that fall into the gray area."That is a very nice dress, ma'am." Assuming you are saying this in any normal tone of voice and not, you know, inching closer with a knife, this is fine by me. For real. Sometimes it is in fact okay to say things to strangers.
"Hey, are you married?" This is an East Harlem special. The implication that, if I am not married, I would want to go out with you, is a prime example of The Fallacy of False Dichotomy.
"You're pretty -- why don't you smile more often?" This is the one I really want to talk about. For real? I should've been smiling ... just now? While walking down the street by myself? Carrying groceries? On my way home? WHO THE FUCK SMILES ALL THE TIME FOR NO FUCKING REASON? Bipolar people in their manic phases? Seriously, most women, much like you, maintain a fairly neutral facial expression while walking down the street and not talking to anyone. Were you just smiling at the air in the moments before you saw me and suggested that I should be smiling? No? Among people and animals, a smile is often a sign of submission. Why don't you smile more often?
In closing, I would like to say that I am aware that you, men who yell things at women on the street, don't read my blog. Yes, I know.
posted by JenIsFamous at 3/30/2007 12:49:00 PM
10 Comments:
But women who yell things at women on the street do.
Once, in East Harlem, a skinny 40-year-old black woman with cornrows wearing an enormous, beaded rainbow-pride necklace shouted at me "Let me be your bodyguard!"
For some reason, I didn't mind that at all. I found it hilarious and flattering.
Jen
"Why don't you smile?"
Makes me want to scream. In fact I questioned someone one time when he said this to me and said we're not happy campers all the time and sometimes things happen that make us not smiling like a friend dying!!!
This comment to me is way worse than cat calls and whatnot on the streets by mostly construction workers!!!
Howabout, "Hey baby, looking good - come over to my place and do the dishes.."
I have one thing to say about all this. God bless New York City
"Baby, somebody better call God, cuz he's missing an angel!"
I once had a man utter the fairly innocuous phrase, "nice shirt," in a manner so revolting it made another dude's "c'mere and fuck me," seem like Sunday school chatter in comparison.
A gentleman should never wolf whistle. In correct English manner a gentleman should avoid all contact with strangers at all times. At least until properly introduced by a mutual acquaintance. It is only proper.
On the matter of smiling I must say that it is not merely the manic that smile randomly in the street. I have been known to grin like a loony upon witnessing various events. I include children falling over, umbrellas turning inside out and women who get wolf whistled giving their abuser a royal mouthful in return.
That post made me chuckle. I don't understand why men ever yell things in the street to women passing by. The other day I saw a guy,who was travelling in a car but stopped at traffic lights,actually open his passenger door to wolf whistle some poor girl walking down the street. I mean, COME ON?!!
Stupid bimbo types deserve to have dumb things yelled at them because they wouldn't recognize them as stupid remarks in the first place.
Intelligent women would be wise to ignore the comments and get on with their life, less ask a man with lower than average IQ to explain himself.
Yeah, it all depends on intelligence really...
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